When you’re in the midst of change, it’s easy to feel like you’re being judged by everyone and everything…I remember once yelling, “Oh yeah, like you have it all figured out!” to an onlooking squirrel.
In reality, others aren’t judging you, you’re judging yourself. Yes, let that one marinate for a bit. So the question then becomes, what are you avoiding or refusing to look at within yourself? Be honest, because sweeping it under the rug isn’t a healthy option. Just please be aware that acknowledging those difficult emotions, while healthier, feels like the equivalent of sitting in an adult poopy diaper.
It’s easier to blame others for “judging” us than it is to look in the mirror. But if we’re going to be honor our true selves, then we need to take an honest look in the mirror.
For example, I wasn’t included as a presenter in an upcoming training. Initially, I felt hurt, weak, and like a failure. Why? It didn’t mean that I wasn’t capable, worthy, or strong. It simply meant that my team wanted me to not worry about one more thing as I worked through some difficult personal issues. I stared myself down and discovered that I judged myself for not being perfect…a life coach who has real life problems, that’s just crazy talk! After I chuckled for how ridiculous that sounded, I decided to sit in my mess a little longer before I cleaned it up for good.
Now, there may be a time when you’re not imagining evil looks and nasty comments, so remember, the ones delivering judgment are dealing with their own issues and clearly haven’t taken the time to review themselves honestly. It’s not you, it’s them. You’re worthy and deserving of love. Let go of all judgments, including those you place on yourself, and just love the person you are right now, today.