I believe it’s a perfect time for a friendly reminder on how to be a good human. The short and simple version is: love yourself, love your God, and love each other. For those of you choosing to stick around for the longer, in-depth version, here you go…and thank you!
You were born a beautifully imperfect human into a beautifully imperfect world. Regardless of your upbringing, beliefs, gender, sexual orientation, etc., you have the same basic needs as everyone else (yes, think Maslow):
- Physical requirements for human survival – food, shelter, clothing, etc.
- Safety – your personal, financial, health, etc. safety and security.
- Love & belonging – your friendships, family (regardless of how you personally define it), and intimate connections.
- Esteem – the way you see yourself, like your self-esteem and self-respect.
We’re falling drastically short in needs of love & belonging and esteem. What was once a country built on a foundation of faith, hard work, and community involvement, is no more. The upside to this is you don’t have to wait for someone else or the government to change it. You can start changing it today.
Opinions & Hypocrisy
Your voice (or your opinion) is very powerful, and I believe you have a responsibility to use it for good vs. evil. The issue, right now, is a good portion of the population are masquerading as positive and loving people, all the while spouting negativity and hate.
My Facebook feed is full of people choosing to see with limited vision and rejecting others views different than their own. Sadly, if you combed through their pre-election posts, you’d find positive memes and motivational quotes about acceptance. Or take a few people I know who own wellness businesses – ones that are built on a foundation of finding self-love and discovering inner peace. These are the same people cruelly flying off the handle at how disgusted they were at the world and how unfair life is.
It’s not to say that negative things don’t happen or they can’t be addressed publicly, it simply means we all have the ability to stop, think through our own feelings, emotions, and baggage to assess their value, and then decide how you want to present it all to others. But you know, it’s for a good cause. And I just get so “passionate” about my beliefs that it causes me to be a raging, psycho, b*tch on social media. I just can’t help it. Um, no. You’re the one in control of the things you say and do. And at the end of the day, hate breeds hate (and love breeds love, thankfully).
So, were one of the many that fell victim to their own hypocrisy? I’m sorry to say, but chances are you were at some point. Don’t believe me? Here a few questions to ask yourself about some of your latest posts:
- Did I share something in line with my values?
- If yes, do you value and respect others?
- If yes, did your post reflect that?
- If yes, do you value and respect others?
- Did what I share truly take into consideration others’ perspectives?
- Did I contribute something to the greater good in a positive manner?
If you answered “no” to any of the questions, I implore you to take a momentary pause and reevaluate before making any future posts.
Become a Better Human
I’ve been on a journey to better myself, and in turn, the world I live in for more than five years. In this time, I’ve learned how my actions and beliefs have either a positive or negative impact on others. Yours do too, especially if you have tiny humans in your house – the impact on them is even greater. It’s our duty to infuse this world with respect, confidence, and love. In order to do so, you must first do it for yourself. Here are the six steps to becoming a better human:
- Self-reflect. Ask yourself why you do the things that you do, and understand where those feelings and behaviors originate. Self-discovery is the first step towards change.
- Self-love. You are worthy of love, regardless of your horrible posts, but you’re the one who needs to believe it. You can’t depend on someone else to “fill your glass” and validate your worth. If you’re begging for acceptance, it’s only because you don’t accept yourself. Give yourself the gift of loving yourself fully, without judgment, and without condition.
- Meet your maker. No, I’m not implying you die, but rather get acquainted with your Creator. It’s never too late to develop a relationship and begin to set a strong foundation of faith. Once it’s built, you can stand strong, even in the midst of chaos. If you feel as though you already have this, then ask yourself, “Am I acting accordingly? Is my talk matching my walk?”
- Feed your brain. A healthy and daily dose of positive personal development will help expand your mind, gain additional perspectives, increase your ability to control your emotions, and provide inner peace.
- Give back. This doesn’t mean money, though donations are good too, but rather give someone the gift of kindness – without expecting anything in return. Do something to make a positive impact within your community. It doesn’t take much to start a ripple of goodness in humanity.
- Repeat. These are daily practices. The two key words are “daily” and “practice.” It takes both in order to truly grow as a better human.
Today, and every day is a blessing and an opportunity to make a choice. A choice of how I want to show up today; and what changes I want to make in myself, my relationship with God, and with others around me and in my community. I will be the change I want to see in the world, and the best part is, I don’t have to depend on others or need the permission of my government to do so.
“Love yourself, love your Creator, love each other. It’s that simple.” ~Karly J. Hall